According to counselor and author Phillip Hodson it is possible to stay in love with one person for the rest of your life.
“It’s by no means unrealistic to have a successful, very long term relationship and to be happy, not in the sense of hearts of flowers but in having a fulfilled life together,” he says.
“You will have good times and bad times, there will be heartaches and sadness and life will kick you in the teeth from time to time but this is normal and unavoidable.
“It’s the ability to cope together that is vital and to be with someone who not only understands you but who can let you be utterly yourself.”
Sounds a tall order? Here is Phillip’s breakdown of the key areas to address if you want your relationship to pass the test of time …
Perhaps surprisingly, Phillip believes it is foolish to base a relationship on love alone and that the first heady months of a romance is far from the best time to decide you want to spend the rest of your life with someone.
“Love is a bit of an illness,” he says, ” and you don’t necessarily make sensible judgements when you are in love. What you are doing is having the necessary excitement but that is not the same as having the basis for a stable and compatible relationship.”